“Dear Me, With Love”: The Science-Backed Power of Writing Yourself a Love Letter

Valentine’s Day Real Talk: Whether you're single, partnered, or somewhere in between, there's one relationship that always deserves attention—the one you have with yourself.

We often pour love, time, and energy into the people around us—family, friends, partners, even pets. But when was the last time you extended that same compassion inward?

Sure, self-love might bring to mind bubble baths, cozy robes, or indulgent spa days (and hey, there’s nothing wrong with that!). But true self-love runs deeper. It’s about how you treat yourself emotionally, mentally, and spiritually—even when things aren’t perfect.

💌 Try This: Write Yourself a Love Letter

Here’s a simple but powerful practice:Buy a card that makes you smile, pick out a favorite pen, and write a love letter to yourself.

Yes, it might feel cheesy at first, but lean into it.

Start by listing a few things you truly like or admire about yourself. Think of moments when those qualities have helped you, supported others, or guided you through hard times.

💡 Why it works (aka, the science bit):Positive psychology tells us that self-compassion and affirmations can improve emotional resilience and boost overall well-being. Writing affirming letters to yourself can lower stress, increase happiness, and rewire your brain for self-kindness—especially when practiced regularly.

In fact, a 2014 study published in the Journal of Positive Psychology found that writing a “self-compassionate letter”just once a week for three weeks significantly increased happiness and reduced symptoms of depression.

Bonus? You now have a little envelope of encouragement to pull out on the days you need it most.

🧘‍♀️ A Few Mantras to Guide Your Practice:

• “I speak to myself with love and respect.”

• “I am worthy of the love I give so freely to others.”

• “I honour who I am, just as I am.”

• “My relationship with myself sets the tone for everything else.”

  
  

This Valentine’s Day (or any day), show yourself some intentional love. You might just be surprised at how powerful it feels.

Go ahead—give it a whirl.You are your longest commitment. Make it a beautiful one